Have you ever found yourself asking “How do I know that I am in a good relationship?”
This is a common question asked to coaching clients and the way that most respond after listening to the particular clients own relationship they put a spin on a question and ask them “What do think a good relationship should give to the people in it?”
While all relationships both friendships and those a little more intimate, are different; with different people looking for different things from each other, there are some ways you can tell if you are in a good relationship and things are going well. In the following article we will look at 9 of the ways to tell you are in a good relationship and how to turn around a bad relationship.
1. No-one is playing games.
Humans have a habit of making things much harder than it needs to be, particularly when it comes to relationships and things involving our hearts. Often the problems start when you become too familiar with feeling hurt or wronged, in a state of constant jealousy, always feeling insecure, honest and trust became less important, the word love is not used in the right context, sex turned into some kind of gameplay, feelings need to be guessed and face to face conversations became faceless digital texting. Rather than running away from the problems developing in your relationship, it is important to face up to them and fix them.
And definitely never resist yourself from speaking up when you feel like you are being played with.
2. Both partners are at the same place emotionally.
If you want a serious and committed relationship, the worst thing you can do that will ensure that you never have one is to be cagey about your emotions and needs. If your partner gets the impression that a casual relationship is fine, you will probably never have anything more than a casual relationship. You should be clear from the get go exactly what you want from your relationship, if not then – when you know it. If you push someone away by being honest about your feelings, then it’s possible that they weren’t right for you or ready to commit anyway.
3. You communicate clearly, honestly and openly.
It is important to never shy away from even the most difficult conversations in a relationship. You will always build a stronger partnership I you talk and listen out for the truth, no matter how hard it is to take, instead of just going in circles. Always say exactly what is on your mind and don’t mince your words. It is never a good idea to expect people you care about to read your mind or guess what you are thinking and whatever you do, don’t play games of the heart or head. Never consider half truths to be any better than lies, because they aren’t and problems will always arise when the complete truth comes out.
Choose your words carefully to avoid offending and listen without becoming defensive. You shouldn’t see communication as being an important part of your relationship; you should see it as the relationship. The main reasons good relationships turn to bad ones more often than not are down to issues connected to commitment, issues connected to trust and issues connected to communication.